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Frequently Asked Questions
What’s “alloaro” mean?

Alloaro means allosexual aromantic, or someone who is aro but not asexual. This term was coined in response to ace-normativity in the aro community and assuming all aros are also ace. Just because alloaros aren’t ace doesn’t make us any less aspec.

What is a QPR/QPP?

QPR stands for Queer-Platonic Relationship (or Quasi-Platonic Relationship, depending on who you ask). QPP is Queer/Quasi-Platonic Partner. A QPR is a relationship that is explicitly non-romantic and defined by the people in one. One QPR may involve sex while another may not, and that’s okay. Some QPRs may resemble romantic relationships in some aspects and that’s okay too. It’s a very fluid concept and not something that can be nailed down by one definition.

Amatanormativity? What’s that?

Amatanormativity is the assumption that everyone wants a romantic (or QP relationship) to be happy. This goes hand in hand with some fandom tropes like soulmates and is very harmful to everyone, not just aros. The idea that one cannot be happy without some sort of relationship is harmful to everyone and can often facilitate abuse.

If you or a loved one might be in an abusive relationship, don’t be afraid to speak up or call an abuse hotline like the one listed under thehotline.org

But what about platonic soulmates? Are those arophobic too?

YES! The idea of any type of soulmate is harmful to us, and conforms to amatanormativity whether you want it to or not. Some people just don’t want or can’t form those types of relationships and insisting that they should is harmful.

Can aces still have sex/aros still be in romantic relationships?

Yes! Not all aces are sex repulsed and not all aros are romance repulsed! There’s no “right way” to be ace or aro and if you think you might be aspec but still enjoy those activities, that’s perfectly okay!

Note from Mod Moon: That doesn’t mean that if you should depict ace characters having sex or aros being in romantic relationships if you yourself aren’t ace and/or aro respectively. Keep in mind that aspecs can still be aphobic towards each other

Oriented aroace vs angled aroace, what are they and what’s the difference?

Oriented aroaces are aroaces who don’t experience ANY sexual or romantic attraction at all, but experience a 3rd type of attraction that makes enough of an impact on them that they want to label it.

Angled aroaces are aroaces who might not be completely aro or ace, and are arospec or acespec and choose to identify what attraction they do feel as well. If you are aroace but don’t feel like you identify with a 3rd attraction, it’s not required to be a “good” aroace. Not all aroaces are oriented or angled.

What does x aspec term mean?

Here’s a quick rundown on more common aspec terms:

Grayace/Grayaro - someone who experiences sexual or romantic attraction very infrequently, not often enough that they feel like they are experiencing it to the same degree as allosexual/allormantic peers

Demisexual/Demiromantic - someone who doesn’t experience sexual or romantic attraction until a strong, emotional bond is formed. THIS IS NOT THE NORMAL HUMAN EXPERIENCE. Many people, including Mod Shay who is typing this, experience sexual attraction right away to people, even if it leaves after the person is out of sight. Demisexuals specifically don’t experience sexual attraction to sexualized advertisements and demiromantics might not see the appeal of some romantic movies/tropes like love at first sight. You can look through the demisexual and demiromantic tags for more info.

There are many other aspec identities but these are just the ones I can think of off the top of my head. If you have a specific question about these labels, you can ask blogs in the general tags for each of them.

Aces are just on zoloft/anti depressants/can’t get a good lay!

1) no, that’s wrong and generally ableist and people shouldn’t go off medication because some funnyman on the internet said so.

2) that’s a harmful mindset to have, and people don’t need to have sex to know that they’re ace (or have a romantic relationship to know they’re aro for that matter) and insisting that they must is harmful to young people questioning their attraction.

Aros are broken, everyone needs romance! I think aromanticism is made up and anyone who identifies as aro, especially as alloaro, is faking it!

fuck off. Aros are real and just as human as you are. Humanity is not defined by romantic relationships. If anything, reliance on domesticated food, material culture, and bipedalism are what makes us human.

Aspec means autism spectrum and you gotta stop using it, just use acespec.

That’s a load of shit, as there is no documented evidence outside of tumblr that ASD is called the aspectrum. The prefix to autism is auti- and would be called autispec if anything. Also insisting that we all use acespec instead erases aros, especially aros who are more connected to their aro identity over their ace one and alloaros who aren’t ace AT ALL.

This is a great aspec post you guys should see! uses aspec to mean just aces and throws aros under the bus or has one vague mention of aros somewhere

Sorry, no. Don’t use aspec if you mean just acespecs. It’s two extra letters, you can use acespec instead. Also don’t tag things with aromantic tags if it’s not related to aromanticism at all or is just vaguely mentioned. I know me and other aros don’t give two shits if you mention aros but focus on aces in the aro tags. You’ll get blocked on main. Also don’t be arophobic. If you think something might be arophobic in a post, don’t be afraid to ask an aro person, whether it’s one of our aro mods or another aro blog.

Am I blocked? I can’t see your posts or reblog from you!

Probably. There’s a variety of reasons we would block someone, including using aphobic rhetoric, being a pedophile apologist, derailing posts, being a terf, truscum, or other transphobic bigot, or being on our DNI but interacting anyway

Ask to follow if:
Non-aspec LGBT+ (If you’re here to spread positivity for your aspec friends or better educate yourself then you’re gucci but if you’re not then this blog is not for you. )
Cisgender heteromantic and heterosexuals are on very thin ice.